There is a silence in the Black community that is louder than any sermon, more suffocating than any crowd, and more lethal than most of the dangers we have been taught to name. It is the silence that descends when a grown man admits he cannot get out of bed. It is the silence that swallows a teenage girl whole when she tries to explain that the darkness behind her eyes is not laziness and is not a phase and is not something that prayer alone will fix. It is the silence that wrapped itself around Naomi Judd and Robin Williams and the world wept for them, but when it wraps itself around a Black boy in Baltimore or a Black mother in Baton Rouge, the community offers two prescriptions — Jesus and toughness — and considers the matter closed.

I am not here to disparage faith. I am here to say that faith without action is dead, and telling a person with clinical depression to pray harder is the spiritual equivalent of telling a person with a broken femur to walk it off. The bone is broken. It requires setting. And the refusal to set it — the insistence that acknowledging the break is itself a form of weakness — is killing people. Not metaphorically. Literally. The data is unambiguous, and the data is horrifying, and the data has been available for years while we perfected the art of looking away.

The Numbers We Will Not Say Out Loud

Black Americans are 20% more likely to report serious psychological distress than white Americans. This is not an estimate from an advocacy group with an agenda. This is the finding of the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Office of Minority Health, drawn from the National Health Interview Survey — the same dataset the federal government uses to track every other health disparity it claims to care about.

U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Office of Minority Health. "Mental and Behavioral Health — African Americans." Data drawn from the National Health Interview Survey.

Twenty percent more likely. And that figure almost certainly understates the reality, because it depends on self-reporting, and the cultural machinery of the Black community is specifically designed to suppress self-reporting. You do not tell strangers your business. You do not air the family’s laundry. You do not admit to a government survey that you are falling apart, because falling apart is not something your people do. Your people survive. Your people endure. Your people built this country with their backs and their hands and they did not have the luxury of depression, so neither do you.

That is the narrative. And it is a narrative that is producing corpses.

The suicide rate among Black teenagers has doubled since 2007. Not increased modestly. Not ticked upward. Doubled. This is the fastest increase of any demographic group in the United States, and it prompted the Congressional Black Caucus to convene an Emergency Task Force on Black Youth Suicide in 2019 — a task force whose findings were devastating and whose recommendations have been largely ignored.

Congressional Black Caucus Emergency Task Force on Black Youth Suicide and Mental Health. "Ring the Alarm: The Crisis of Black Youth Suicide in America." December 2019.

But it gets worse, and you need to hear this, because this particular data point should make every parent, every pastor, every grandparent in the Black community stop what they are doing and pay attention. Black children between the ages of 5 and 12 are dying by suicide at twice the rate of white children in the same age group. Five-year-olds. Seven-year-olds. Ten-year-olds. Children who have barely learned to read are deciding that life is not worth continuing, and they are making that decision at double the rate of their white peers.

Price, J.H. & Khubchandani, J. "The Changing Characteristics of African-American Adolescent Suicides, 2001–2017." Journal of Community Health, 44(4), 756–763, 2019. See also: Bridge, J.A. et al. "Age-Related Racial Disparity in Suicide Rates Among US Youths, 2001–2015." JAMA Pediatrics, 172(7), 697–699, 2018.
“Black children ages 5 to 12 are dying by suicide at twice the rate of white children. Five-year-olds are deciding life is not worth continuing. And our response has been silence.”

Let me ask the question that the data demands: what is happening to Black children that is so unbearable, so unaddressed, so invisible to the adults around them, that elementary-school-aged children are taking their own lives? And why, in a community that will march for a shooting, that will fill the streets for a police killing, that will shut down a highway for an injustice — why is there no march for this? Why is there no outrage for this? Why are these children dying in a silence so complete that most Black parents do not even know the statistics exist?

The Cultural Machinery of Silence

The stigma around mental health in the Black community is not an accident. It is the product of specific cultural forces, each of which made sense at some point in history and each of which is now functioning as a killing mechanism.

The first is the theology of endurance. In the Black church tradition — which remains the most powerful cultural institution in Black America — suffering is framed as a test of faith. You do not succumb to despair because God does not give you more than you can bear. Depression is not a clinical condition; it is a spiritual failing. Anxiety is not a neurochemical reality; it is evidence of insufficient trust in the Lord. This theology sustained enslaved people through horrors that defy language. It sustained sharecroppers. It sustained the civil rights generation. And it is now sustaining a culture of silence that is watching its children die because admitting to mental illness feels like admitting to faithlessness.

The second is the mythology of strength. The “strong Black woman” and the “strong Black man” are archetypes so deeply embedded in the community’s self-image that they function as commandments. You are strong. You endure. You do not break. And if you break, you do not show it, because showing it makes you less than what your ancestors survived to produce. This mythology equates emotional expression with weakness, vulnerability with defeat, and asking for help with failure. It is the most elegant trap in American culture — a prison built from pride and survival, locked from the inside.

The third is justified distrust of the medical establishment. And I want to be precise about why this distrust is justified, because dismissing it as irrational would be dishonest and because understanding it is necessary for overcoming it. The Tuskegee syphilis experiment ran from 1932 to 1972 — forty years during which the United States Public Health Service deliberately withheld treatment from 399 Black men with syphilis to study the disease’s progression. The men were told they were being treated. They were not. They died. Their wives were infected. Their children were born with congenital syphilis.

Reverby, Susan M. "Examining Tuskegee: The Infamous Syphilis Study and Its Legacy." University of North Carolina Press, 2009.

Henrietta Lacks’s cells were harvested without her knowledge or consent in 1951 and became the foundation of modern cell biology — generating billions in pharmaceutical revenue while her family could not afford health insurance. J. Marion Sims, the “father of modern gynecology,” developed his techniques by performing surgical experiments on enslaved Black women without anesthesia. This is not ancient history dressed up to justify modern suspicion. This is the documented record of what the American medical establishment has done to Black bodies, and when a Black person says they do not trust a therapist they have never met to sit with their pain, they are not being paranoid. They are being historically literate.

But historically literate is not the same as well. And the distrust that protects you from institutional harm is the same distrust that prevents you from getting the help that could save your life.

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The Treatment Gap

Only one in three Black adults who need mental health care actually receive it. The American Psychological Association has documented this gap repeatedly, and the reasons extend beyond stigma into structural barriers that compound the cultural ones.

American Psychological Association. "Demographics of U.S. Psychology Workforce" and "Mental Health Disparities: African Americans." APA Fact Sheets.

Only 4% of psychologists in the United States are Black. Four percent. In a country where Black people are 13.6% of the population and where cultural competence in therapy is not a luxury but a clinical necessity, 96% of the people trained to treat your mind do not share your cultural experience, your historical memory, your relationship to institutions, or your understanding of what it means to navigate a country that was not built for you.

This is not an abstract concern. Research consistently demonstrates that therapeutic alliance — the trust between therapist and patient — is one of the strongest predictors of treatment outcomes. When a Black man sits across from a white therapist and tries to explain that his anxiety is not generalized but specific, that it lives in the moment a police car pulls behind him, in the way a store clerk tracks him through the aisles, in the exhaustion of code-switching through an eight-hour workday only to be told his communication style is “aggressive” — when he tries to explain all of this and sees incomprehension in the therapist’s eyes, the therapeutic alliance fractures before it forms. He does not return. And he is counted among those who “chose not to seek treatment,” as though the choice were free.

The shortage is not accidental. The pipeline that produces psychologists runs through graduate programs that are expensive, that require years of unpaid or underpaid clinical training, that admit from a pool already winnowed by every educational disparity this country maintains. Fixing the representation gap requires fixing the educational pipeline, which requires fixing the economic pipeline, which requires the kind of systemic investment that America discusses at conferences and funds with loose change.

The Trauma Beneath the Trauma

There is a layer to the mental health crisis in Black America that cannot be understood without understanding Adverse Childhood Experiences — ACEs — and what they do to the human brain and body over a lifetime. The ACE Study, conducted by Felitti and colleagues and published in 1998, established that childhood exposure to abuse, neglect, and household dysfunction produces measurable, dose-dependent increases in the risk of depression, substance abuse, heart disease, cancer, and early death. The more ACEs a child accumulates, the worse the outcomes. This is not correlation dressed up as causation. The biological mechanisms are documented: chronic stress in childhood alters the architecture of the developing brain, dysregulates the stress-response system, and produces inflammatory processes that damage organs over decades.

Felitti, V.J. et al. "Relationship of Childhood Abuse and Household Dysfunction to Many of the Leading Causes of Death in Adults: The Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study." American Journal of Preventive Medicine, 14(4), 245–258, 1998.

Black children, on average, are exposed to more ACEs than white children. They are more likely to experience poverty, parental incarceration, community violence, housing instability, and food insecurity — each of which is a documented ACE or ACE-equivalent. This is not a function of Black culture. It is a function of four centuries of structural disadvantage that concentrated every known risk factor for childhood trauma in the same communities, and then told those communities that the resulting damage was their own fault.

But here is the piece that should keep every policymaker and every parent awake at night: community violence exposure produces PTSD at rates comparable to combat veterans. Fowler and colleagues documented this in 2009 — children living in neighborhoods with high rates of violence display the same hypervigilance, the same nightmares, the same emotional numbing, the same inability to concentrate that we diagnose and treat in soldiers returning from war. The difference is that soldiers come home from the war. These children live in it. Every day. There is no deployment that ends, no base to return to, no VA system — however flawed — waiting to acknowledge what happened to them.

Fowler, P.J. et al. "Community Violence: A Meta-Analysis on the Effect of Exposure and Mental Health Outcomes of Children and Adolescents." Development and Psychopathology, 21(1), 227–259, 2009.
“Children in violent neighborhoods show PTSD rates comparable to combat veterans. The difference is that soldiers come home from the war. These children live in it. Every day.”

What Is Actually Working

The landscape is not entirely bleak, and honesty requires acknowledging what is working alongside what is failing. A movement toward culturally responsive mental health care has emerged in the last decade, driven not by institutions but by Black practitioners and organizers who refused to wait for the system to fix itself.

Therapy for Black Girls, founded by Dr. Joy Harden Bradford, began as a podcast in 2018 and has become one of the largest directories of Black female therapists in the country, connecting women to culturally competent providers and, equally important, normalizing the act of seeking help. The platform’s reach — millions of podcast downloads, a robust online community — represents a cultural shift that no public health campaign achieved.

The Boris Lawrence Henson Foundation, established by actress Taraji P. Henson and named for her father, a Vietnam veteran who struggled with mental illness, has provided free mental health services to thousands of Black youth in urban schools. The foundation does not wait for young people to seek help. It goes where they are — into the schools, into the communities — and removes the barriers of cost, transportation, and stigma that the traditional mental health system erects and then laments.

The Steve Fund focuses specifically on the mental health of students of color at colleges and universities, a population under enormous pressure — the pressure to justify the family’s investment, to represent the race, to succeed in institutions that were not designed for them — with almost no culturally specific support. The organization works with universities to implement evidence-based programs and has become a model for institutional change driven by community need rather than administrative convenience.

These organizations share a common insight: the mental health system as it exists was not built for Black people, and waiting for it to rebuild itself is a strategy for losing another generation. So they built their own. This is, in a sense, the most American and the most Black American response imaginable — when the system fails you, you build a parallel system. It should not be necessary. It is necessary. And it is working.

The Economic Cost of Silence

For those who respond to human suffering only when it is translated into dollars, the National Alliance on Mental Illness estimates that untreated mental health conditions cost the Black community approximately $57 billion annually in lost productivity, excess medical spending, disability payments, and the downstream economic consequences of a population operating far below its cognitive and emotional capacity.

National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). "African American Mental Health" fact sheet and economic impact estimates.

Fifty-seven billion dollars. That is not a rounding error. That is an economic catastrophe hidden inside a health catastrophe hidden inside a cultural catastrophe. It is the cost of every Black entrepreneur who never started the business because the depression was too heavy. Every Black student who dropped out because the anxiety was unmanageable and untreated. Every Black employee who underperformed because the PTSD from childhood was rewriting their neurochemistry every day and they had been told their entire lives that the solution was to pray harder and be stronger.

This is the cost of silence. Not silence imposed from outside — though that silence is real — but silence imposed from within. Silence as culture. Silence as tradition. Silence as a survival mechanism that has outlived the conditions that created it and is now producing the very casualties it was designed to prevent.

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The Wound You Were Too Proud to Name

I want to speak directly now, without the insulation of data, without the distance of analysis, to every Black man and woman and child who is reading this and recognizing something they have never said out loud.

You are not weak. The depression you feel is not a character flaw. The anxiety that wakes you at 3 a.m. is not evidence of insufficient faith. The numbness that makes the world feel like it is happening behind glass is not something you can exercise away or church away or drink away, though God knows you have tried. It is a medical condition. It has a name. It has treatments that work. And seeking those treatments is not a betrayal of your ancestors — it is a fulfillment of the promise their survival was supposed to make possible.

“Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.”
— James Baldwin

The ancestor who survived the Middle Passage did not cross that ocean so that their descendants could die from a wound they were too proud to name. The grandmother who picked cotton and raised ten children and never complained did not endure all of that so that you could inherit her silence along with her strength. She was silent because she had no choice. You have a choice. The resources exist. The culturally competent therapists exist, in greater numbers than ever before. The telehealth platforms that bring those therapists into your home, past the stigma of being seen walking into a mental health clinic, exist. The crisis lines staffed by people who understand your specific pain exist — the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, the Crisis Text Line, the Black Mental Health Alliance.

Asking for help is not weakness. It has never been weakness. The strongest thing a human being can do is look at their own pain without flinching and say: I need help with this. That is not the abandonment of strength. That is its highest expression.

Silence is not strength. Silence is not heritage. Silence is not what your ancestors fought for. Silence, in the face of a crisis this documented, this deadly, this treatable, is capitulation. And Black people have never been a people who capitulate.

Name the wound. Seek the treatment. Break the silence. Because the silence is not protecting anyone. It is burying them.